Shut up bitch, i am a feminist

Before all the females who jump the handle and start screaming for the little blood that courses through my body, let me make this clear. I WASN'T THE PERSON WHO UTTERED THESE WORDS. These were spoken out ...typed out by apparently a female in one of these web forums where the Donglegate issue was being discussed.

Statutory warning: If you had landed up on this page expecting a meaningful article on feminism, the donglegate issue, Adria richards, the "forkers", the "donglers" then please close this page and proceed in an orderly fashion out of this window. I am just putting together my views on the current molehill and the larger anthill and the even larger mountain behind that. 

By now, everybody knows about the Donglegate issue. If you didn't know about it till now, don't worry. It wouldn't affect your appraisals, your exam results, your test results, your tv schedule etc. (trying to cater to all possible audiences of this blog). The issue is this. Two guys, as guys can be were joking among themselves about a silly double entendre that they had come up or heard in office, although I bet it would have typically been heard at a pre-teen boys only club meeting. Adria , a female, sitting behind them at a conference (or was it a convention) overheard them and promptly took a pic of them and did what anybody with a smartphone does these days..published it to their social media. This led to one of the guys getting fired. So far, so good? It gets interesting. Adria also gets fired. Now this becomes an international issue and is the rage of all talk-shows, social media, feminist groups, water cooler talks. 

Now that you either repent for having curiosity in reading so far, or genuinely interested in where I am going with this, hold on. Let us analyze facts. Two guys were talking among themselves, some crap that they want to. This was overheard by a woman and she promptly took what was a private discussion into the public's eye. I wouldn't call this an over reaction. I would just call this a bad reaction. If she had stepped up to them and gave them a good nice rejoinder( I can think of so many ones. eg: your dongle resembles your 'dongle'?, are you sure your 'dongle' doesn't transmit a virus? ) then the issue would have got closed then and there. Instead it goes on to the social media. I equate this recent spate of posting everything to social media to this.

This then leads to one of the guys getting fired. WOW. Seriously? You are firing a person because he made a stupid, insensitive, crappy joke? What happened to firing the person who peed in the potted plants? or who left the bathroom taps running all night and an entire bay was flooded? or that person who scribbled his manager's phone number in a men's urinal at a gay bar? Those guys getting fired, I accept. They crossed a line of no return. Wouldn't a simple apology do? or rather a very complex apology do? or punishment, or rustication, or suspension or something apart from firing him? This seems to be a bit of an overdose for me. 

Then the corporate world went and did the next best thing. They fired Adria also. Now this was beyond anything that I could possibly understand. She was fired for calling out creeps who had the balls(yeah literally) to pass of sex jokes at a convention(or a conference, still haven't checked that out). She had her reasons to. It was a hall filled with men and she might have wanted to avoid confrontation. She didn't feel comfortable about taking it to the organizers. Whatever. She decided on a plan and she went ahead with that. So what? Punishing her for that is so crazy, that I am very eager to hear what the lawyers for SendGrid are going to say at the labor court hearing. 

Things just got too far. Loads of people from around the world took this issue online and threats started to fly left and right. Anonymous, 4Chan, etc. Guys, Seriously ??? I am sure if Adria had known this would become such a big issue, she would either have not done it or made sure she used a high-resolution camera for the pic. Things have to be turned a notch down. It has got too crowded, too noisy, too opinionated too quick. The speed with which the issue has grown just shows the simmering tension between the two biggest races in the world, the male and the female. And each of them indulge in their own form of racist activities.Name calling, threats, legal action, backstabbing, firing, hiring, abstinence(look it up) is happening in every battlefield in the world now. The title of this post was such a response in a very heated discussion about this issue. Can't we all just accept on a couple of things? 

      1) There are some men who are jerks, immature with a twisted weird sense of juvenile humor.

      2) There are some women who don't know to handle the situation smoothly

      3) There are some (read many) companies that just don't know to do anything but fire the problem away

CAN'T WE ALL JUST LIVE TOGETHER?

Read more about the issue by just searching in google. Almost everybody has an opinion about it. So why not me. Try this