THIS IS NOT AN AUTOBIOGRAPHICAL POST...JUST MY TAKE

I dont know why I wrote this...I was just sitting around and thought can I write on a serious tone? I decided I could.Tthe next thing was the topic and this was what came up in my mind... this is not autobiographical...the people I talk about in this post are real and existing in this world...just that its not me Iam talking about...get that clearly :)


For centuries man has battled against injustice inflicted upon him by other fellow human beings for various reasons. Man has triumphed. His spirit has lived beyond the temporary setbacks brought about by hatred, ignorance, arrogance and mostly misguided philosophy. When one man wins, it means there has to be a loser on the other side, although the stance never remains the same on both sides, nor is the total equally split up between the two sides.

But now the war has crept away from the battlefield and into the playing fields of the mind. And the opponents are no longer men serving their country’s call for arms but rather a couple brought together by something as inconspicuous as love. This is not a diatribe against love and people in love but rather a guide, a word of advice to people in love.

The games that people play ! and especially the games…the mental games that people in love play. Aaah it is so infuriating. The mental thrusts and parries are just too much. In the infant stages of the relation, they were the very same things that made the relation so interesting; finally boil down to be the very thing each person hates about the other.

The restrictions, the controls, the doubts, the insecurity, the lack of time, the differed focus, the confiding in friends, the insecurity brought about by that, ….whew …the list just grows on like a serpentine slithering away on a full moon night. What happens before long is the couple are in a relation that from the outside seems to be perfect but as such a strong underlying unease about it. Very similar to a snow-capped volcano… looks so white and calm but underneath its just waiting to explode before settling down again.

Before long both become prisoners by choice…both not wanting to let go..or rather be the person who took the decision. They continue to simmer and wait for it to cool down, which will never happen or wait for the other person to take the step, either positive or negative. The question is the options are just two. Either break up or do as the other person says…. But the real question is which of this is a positive step and which is a negative step? So they continue to remains prisoners by choice…mentally trapped. Not wanting to give in. not wanting to be the person who decides.