Why marriage is better than being in love - Part 2

Continuing from my earlier post....click here to read that

As I was saying, marriage is definitely better than being in love....oh i havent explained why yet. I listed down the pros and cons of being in love. I will now attempt to do the same for marriage although I might change the factors that i consider ( literary rights, you see )

Being Married

Socially Active

Pro : If it is a working couple that we are talking about, both of them would be too tired and not in a mood to go out and do the same things that they used to do when they were in love, like long drives along the beach road, catching movies however insane. Now that we are settled and married in, the maximum socially active thing that they would want to do would be the weekly shopping for groceries(often done at the gripe of the counterpart, mainly because we try to pass the buck to the other person more than often). Also add to these the mandatory visits to relatives living in the same town, or acting as chauffeurs to the unstopping horde of relatives that drop in.

Con: Catching all the events that you want to see, going to the must-watch-movie that you have been waiting for are all now things of the past. If the family vehicle is not budging for the regular stuff that you were doing earlier, then no way will it budge for doing things that you like to do.

Bigger circle of friends 

Pro: Once the marriage happens, the bigger common group of friends becomes the bigger common group of friends that we both avoid or show reluctance in hanging out with. The inertia of marriage sets in and we can always blame our counterpart and use them as excuses for avoiding any boring event.

for example this phone conversation: " Oh, hi Shiva, what you saying...It's your daughter's third tooth falling anniversary this saturday...oh you have arranged for a carnatic music rendition..great..oh this saturday..hmmm...the wife is having a doctor visit and i am required to take her...you know how it is...i will see..if the doctor's visit ends soon i will rush to your place...oh it is in the other side of town...no issues...i will rush there as soon as i can". We both know that it is not going to happen, especially driving to the other side of town from a non-existent doctor's visit.

Con: The bigger circle of friends becomes the bigger circle of relatives. Tidying up for their unannounced drop-ins or for that fact even announced drop-ins gets to be tedious after the initial ones.

Gifts

Pro: The gifting doesn't stop. Plenty more reasons and events for gift buying. First anniversaries of virtually anything. First burnt meal, First trip together, first movie together etc etc.

Con: Now that the financial kitty is combined, it looks rather suspiciously like the gifts that she gets or subversively expect you to get is much better than the gifts that you get...come on, a pair of new socks that you get cannot obviously cost you the same as the diamond pendant that she has been pointing out to you every time the ad comes on TV.


Stolen Moments

Pro: Once the inertia of Marriage sets in, things that used to excite us becomes normal and in some cases downright boring.

For example: 

wife:" honey, do you remember our trip to Manali last year"
hubby:" hmmm...yes"
wife:"the long walks that we took, the cute temple by the lakeside"
hubby:"hmmhmm"
wife:"the cold nights, how we used to fight for the single blanket."
hubby:"hmmhmm"
wife:"how we used to eat out of one plate, how quickly the food got cold, how we used to play in the sno.."hubby interrupting:" Can you get me some more sauce for this samosa??"


Con: The change although apparent, can sometimes end up hurting us too, especially when we are in the mood for some fun


For example:

Hubby" do you remember our trip to Manali ?"
wife:"hmmhmm"
hubby :" the cold climate, how we used to cuddle together". at this point the husband moves closer to the wife
wife:"hmmhmm"
hubby:" how we used to take lovely walks by the lakeside"
wife in a flat tone:"I have got to get to office early tomorrow and i have a headache now..good nite"

All said and done, Marriage does seem better than being in love.

( the writer of this post was under no compulsion to write in the manner that he has. His only hope is that someday his wife would read through this and see the goodness in the nature of her husband)